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What is parental conflict?
Whether you're together or separated, conflict is a normal part of any parenting relationship. It only starts to become a problem when conflict is frequent, intense and poorly resolved. There is also strong evidence to show how parental conflict can have a significantly negative impact on children’s long-term outcomes.
Parental conflict may include:
- a lack of warmth or emotional connection
- Intense / regular arguments
- Not listening / understanding others perspective
- Not accepting the outcome of arguments
Parental conflict can affect children’s:
- Mental health and happiness
- Behaviour
- Education / Employability
- Physical Health
- Relationships
Parental conflict or domestic abuse?
Parental conflict and domestic abuse are two separate things. Domestic abuse is usually present when there is an imbalance of power and control, and one parent is fearful within the parenting relationship.
For help identifying domestic abuse view the Refuge website.
Further support
Domestic violence and abuse | Merton Council
Online resources to support parental conflict
Learn how to navigate the changes that happen in a relationship when a baby arrives.
Arguing Better
Disagreements are a normal part of life. How you approach them can make all the difference to you, your partner, and your children.
Getting it Right for Children
When parents are separating or separated, children can often get caught in the middle. Learn how to manage conflict to minimise the impact it has on your children.
Debt and Relationships
Debt and money troubles are among the biggest causes of relationship stress. Learn why it’s always a good idea to talk to your partner about what’s happening.
OnePlusOne - Online relationship support for parents
Parents in Merton can access free online resources from the relationship experts at OnePlusOne. Learn to cope with stress and communicate better, wherever you are in your parenting journey.
Downloadable parent support cards are available online via the links above.
Family Information support Hubs
If you are experiencing parental conflict, you can book a session over the phone or in person and get help and support from a specialist advisor. With support and guidance, you will be helped to access relevant information and services to help you.
Family Information and Support Hubs