The term birth relative includes parents, grandparents, uncles, aunts or siblings.

Current adoption

If your child, or if you are a close relative of a child who is in the care of the Borough of Merton, and the plan is adoption, you may already have been invited to meetings to discuss and explain this process, but you are also entitled to ask for independent counselling and support. The child’s social worker will be able to refer you to the adoption support service in Merton or you could contact us yourself.

The adoption support worker can also help and support you after the adoption, in relation to any contact arrangements that are agreed, including letter box arrangements and we can give you information about other support services for birth relatives.

Past adoption

If you are seeking information, or hope to make contact with a child who was adopted many years ago, we can offer you guidance and advice.

If you live in the borough of Merton and are a birth relative of an adopted person, even if the adoption took place elsewhere, we can help you. We can also assist you if your family member’s adoption was arranged by Merton, even if you no longer live in this area, although in such circumstances we may need to liaise with the adoption support worker in your area.

Unless there are exceptional circumstances, we would not normally contact an adopted person under the age of 18 years, but if you would like to make contact with a birth relative who is now over this age, we could offer you counselling and an intermediary service.

There is also a support group for birth parents, run by the South West London Adoption Consortium. This gives birth parents the opportunity to meet each other in a supportive and non-judgmental environment and share experiences.

To find out more about any of these services please contact the duty officer on the telephone number provided, or see our fact sheets:

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London Borough of Merton
Permanence and Placements Service
4th Floor, Merton Civic Centre
London Road

Telephone 020 8545 4688